Dating into polygamy
Heterosexual men are more likely to play the field, and heterosexual women must compete for men’s attention.Of course, tales of scarce men and sexual permissiveness in ancient Sparta won’t convince everyone, so I began to explore the demographics of modern religion.On a lark, I emailed my friend Cynthia Bowman,* a devout Mormon who grew up in Salt Lake City and returns there often, and asked her whether Mormon sex ratios are as lopsided as the ARIS study claimed.[Editor’s note: “Cynthia Bowman” is a pseudonym, as are other names denoted with an asterisk.BOX ELDER County, in the far north-west corner of Utah, above the Great Salt Lake, is only sparsely populated. When the telephone started ringing in the county sheriff's office at 3am three Sundays ago it was a fair bet someone out there was in trouble.With a broken nose and her legs and arms swollen with bruises, a 16-year- old girl had struggled seven miles to a petrol station to find a telephone.
I just want to see him maybe twice a week, so it works perfectly if he’s got another wife who can take care of all his cooking and cleaning.’” In 2010, London Mayor Boris Johnson’s then 45-year-old ex-wife Allegra Mostyn-Owen married a Muslim man in secret.It is estimated that as many as 20,000 polygamous Muslim marriages exist in the UK.In a Channel 4 documentary this week, director Masood Khan will delve into the community of British Muslim polygamists to find out “what makes these people tick” and how a religious group is able to put its own practices above UK law.In an article for the Evening Standard she explained her approach to polygamy: “I realise that I am unlikely to conceive children [at my age] so we agreed that, so long as he chooses a good partner, then I am happy to live together in an extended family.” But this intriguing application of Muslim teachings, based on a woman’s desire to maintain her independence and career without sacrificing a personal home life completely, is not the norm.In most polygamous marriages the idea of the dominant male provider and his numerous subordinate spouses prevails.